Don’t Tell Me Your Goals – Just Work Toward Them
Maybe that is harsh advice. I don’t know. There are some theories that exist that say sharing your goals makes you more likely to meet them. The theory is that people will check in with you and hold you accountable to meeting them. I think the truth is that unless it is someone with a vested stake in you (e.g. your boss, your spouse, your parents), they are likely to feel uncomfortable holding you accountable and will actually console you when you don’t take steps to reach your goal. “Oh, but you had so many other things going on it’s understandable you didn’t accomplish x.”
I recently read of a study that observed individual behavior in this area and measured the outcome of success based on whether they shared their intentions. It found that in “Four different tests of 63 people, those who kept their intentions private were more likely to achieve them than those who made them public and were acknowledged by others.” People feel good about creating their sense of self and are thus less motivated to actually take the steps to actualize that sense.
With that said – I have a few big things on the horizon and I literally have told 2 people. And they only needed to know because they would be impacted by them. I’ll be sure to share once they are accomplished.
Stay tuned! But read more in the mean time: Shut up! Announcing your plans makes you less motivated to accomplish them